You know that person who doesn’t drink, but comments all the time on what you are drinking, inspects the wine bottle, suggest what you should order, tuts if you order another glass pf wine and speculates regularly about who has an alcohol problem?
That’s a dry drunk… dry, but still thinking about it ALL THE TIME
I hate and fear the idea that This could be my future…My ex husband is obsessed with drug and drug dependency and being clean (he is NOT) and who takes drugs, or took drugs, or is clean from drugs… on the odd occasions he was abstinent from substances he talked about it ALL the time… and he still does ( to the kids). He is a “dry drunk”
I read this article and it resonated so strongly with me… For several months I didn’t think about alcohol all the time, or even very much … but I am right now and I absolutely HATE it.
I have talked to my friend K and to me exP about my drinking. Both accept my decision that I cant drink, although both I think don’t really ‘get’ how bad it made me feel, or how afraid I am of that impulsive behavior and how hard it was / would be for me to drink ‘moderately’.
I totally understand that bit
A top addiction expert once explained to me that I suffer from Multi Impulsive Disorder. This basically means I have no self-control, so if I control one bit of my life, it spills out somewhere else.
oh yes… I really ‘get’ this bit….
and another pull towards my former partner is that being with him makes me feel less ‘lost’ less out of control, more balanced and “straight” …being with him settles my desperately disordered body image / eating patterns; my compulsive financial behaviour be it spending or saving; …. he makes me feel less like a dry drunk …
I hate this.